Saturday, 13 November 2010


"Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang membazir itu adalah saudara-saudara Syaitan, sedang Syaitan itu pula adalah makhluk yang sangat kufur kepada Tuhannya."

[Surah al-Israa : 27]

I went to Pasar Baru yesterday, bought few things for April~

Conflict :
My aim - I want to make everything sinless. And I don't want this event to be a medium to create much more sin.

I want something which is not too ordinary but still sufficient to make me remember the moments for the whole of my life..I'm not the one who buy something n at the same time thinking about how other people will react on my choice. I tried very hard not to buy something which will attract people's attention. I know this is my only chance to show off myself, to be beautiful in the eyes of everyone, and to be the center of attention. But for what particular reason do I have to do that? Is it to be proud of myself? Or is it to compare my big day with others'?

I regret it when I have to sacrifice my own desire to make other people happy, especially my loved ones. And to explain the reason why I want to do this and that, it was not an easy task. I hope you understand. And as a good muslim, I know u will understand :)

I am a girl (or a woman)...It's really sad to read many articles about women in Hell. I couldn't stop thinking when it comes to reading that kinds of articles. They keep sharing it on Facebook, and I keep reading it repeatedly. I don't want to be included in that proportion. And to make myself excluded, I have to do something. Urgent & fully prepared. This is just the beginning.

There's no use of wasting your money to something which is of no use other than to make people impress of you. It's more wasteful to spend your money for a complete set of gown, just to change the lining color so that it will look more impressive than before. For me, it's okay if it looks just like that. It's beautiful :)) We don't have to attract attention that bad. It is a sinful waste of money.

I hope I can initiate something good for Islamic community...Malays especially. Malays & Muslims are mixed up with cultures which are not even originally ours. It can be clearly seen in places near KL. I did some researches on it. I'm not intended to talk about it loudly here, because I have to take care of others' feelings, too. Maybe one day...step by step..

If we go back to Nabi Muhammad's era, there's no such thing as 'no money to get married'. It is only in our cultures nowadays that this phrase becomes pronounced. In this case, we have to go back to what our prophet has left for us, the Quran.

"And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Salihun (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficent for His creatures' needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people) " (An-Nur : 32)

"Ada tiga golongan manusia yang berhak Allah tolong mereka, yaitu seorang mujahid fi sabilillah, seorang hamba yang menebus dirinya supaya merdeka, dan seorang yang menikah karena ingin memelihara kehormatannya”. (Hadits Riwayat Ahmad 2 : 251, Nasa’i, Tirmidzi, Ibnu Majah hadits No. 2518, dan Hakim 2 : 160 dari shahabat Abu Hurairah radliyallahu ‘anhu).

We are getting nearer to The Day of Judgement (Qiyamat). We have to think more about it. Despite having a busy life as a student, a worker, a father, a mother, or a country leader, we have to balance it with our ibadah. Our life here is only for a certain period of time. We are getting older year after year, and by getting another year older, it doesn't necessarily mean a better birthday celebration / birthday surprise from your family & friends. It is only a matter of culture.

Talking about marriage in Malaysia, I am so confused with those who are not wearing a hijab/jilbab/tudung, to wear it during the solemnization events only, and then throw it off during reception. And I am so confused with those, who, during the akad nikah, they stated the maskahwin which is not really the maskahwin value of that particular state. For example, if in Sabah the maskahwin should be RM300, but in the akad statement, they said "Aku terima nikahnya ..... dengan maskahwin RM **,*** tunai". Hmm, someone needs to clear up my confusion.

For wedding package, I am not satisfied with the bridal gown. Like they want the brides to show every part of their bodies to everyone. I asked the tailor to make mine a little bit loose, they said okay. But the result was, it's tighter than my body. I really hate it. One of my friends told me, her senior have experienced this before. She needs to alter the dress for about 4 times to get what she wanted. The tailor made it too tight, and this senior is the one who always wear tudung besar. Can you imagine...for a 4-hour-event, she has to sacrifice her 'aurat' that has been covered for her whole life.

I also have a friend who has been asked to shave her eyebrow by the mak andam during her wedding, just to make it thinner, so that the mak andam's work would look nicer in the eyes of the guests. She said, she didn't want, n the mak andam was like, keep asking and asking her to do that. Lucky my friend is a strong believer of God. Like I said, there's no use of doing something against your self-rules just to make other people impress of you.

"Maka hadapkanlah wajahmu dengan lurus kepada agama (Allah); (tetaplah atas) fitrah Allah yang telah menciptakan manusia menurut fitrah itu. Tidak ada perubahan pada fitrah Allah. (Itulah) agama yang lurus; tetapi kebanyakan manusia tidak mengetahui”. (Ar-Ruum : 30).

I have to stop now. Continue babbling later...

4 wonderful voice(s):

Zen said...

if all girls and their mothers think this way, wouldnt it be wonderful?

marriage is such a fuss.

Dr Amad said...

Berani menentang arus?

Semangat dan selamat! =)

Wazie Wahidah said...

hmm.. wat jak smpai ko dpt mcm yg ko mau baa. org ok jak tu sepatutnya. pedulilah. sy aritu pun ada yg sy xmau tp sy x bertegas blg xmau. naa, kan bdosa suda. susah jgk mo jaga hati org. isk3.

Wazie Wahidah said...

ada kwn2 sy yg biasa tudung labuh kawin dorg pkai baju cantik2 jgk. x pyh pun ketat2 tunjuk body. mmg ada tu org yg mindset dorg, klau body cantik mesti la mau tunjuk2 org. biasanya designers la.

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